I read a book a few years ago by John Maxwell called "Everyone Communicates, Few Connect."
Everyone in the world communicates in some form or another, but not everyone actually connects on a deeper level with others.
It takes skill, patience, practice, and willingness to connect with people.
We've all had that teacher who just idly sat by, waiting for the next bell to ring and never left an impression on you. And hopefully you've also had a teacher who's impacted you because they CONNECTED with you. Maybe they spent extra time specifically with you, or they were simply more fun than other teachers. Maybe they were able to relate to where you are and not just helping you get a passing grade, and they chose to see you as someone who is valuable.
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Each month YOU have the opportunity to not only communicate with kids who are curious about God, but you can connect with them and leave an impact that lasts a lifetime.
Connecting with a child in your area of ministry can be the difference between them being dragged out of the house week to week, and them dragging their parents out of bed to get to church on time each week.
In our experience with kids there have been three key points that have helped us to connect with them.
1.) Words of Affirmation - A kid will light up if you give them encouraging words when they first walk into a room. Tell them their shirt is cool, their hair is nice, or compliment a toy they brought with them. They feel connected closer to you when they know you like the small details in their life.
2.) Memory - Memorize something about a specific kid and strike up a conversation about it. If they love LEGO's and you don't know a thing about them, ask them questions then tell them about your favorite toys when you were growing up. If they love American Girl Dolls ask them to tell you their favorite character and her story. They love when you remember their favorite things and feel valued when you want to talk with them about it.
3.) Physical Touch - Many kids don't always get a hug from their parents or their hand held when they cross the street. Appropriate physical touch is something kids strive for. A simple tap on the shoulder or a good high-five let's them know that your not just an adult, you can relate to their world. Get down on their level, look them in the eyes and ask for their best high-five this Sunday. I bet they smile right before they rear back and try to knock your hand into the sun.
Do a combination of those three things or try all of them the next time you serve. You'll notice that you've started to connect with a kid, leaving a lasting impression for years.
*Side Note: As we are in the winter season, we are praying for you & your families health! If you are feeling under the weather and showing symptoms please make sure to let us know prior to your Scheduled Sunday so we can find you a replacement. Thanks for helping us to keep our classrooms clean and safe for everyone!
Thanks for being intentional every Sunday you serve!
Ben & Ashley Kingdon
