Building Framework

Part of our vision for Family Life Ministries leaders is to "Show FRAMEWORK of a Christ follower."
This speaks of engaging and connecting with kids and parents. Building a foundation in the lives of families will help them connect with Jesus better and impact the world more.

As a newer parent I've learned that I value the truth regarding my daughter. Whenever she spends time with others or we pick her up from a baby sitter the first things we always ask, or at least what's always told to us, is normally about how she behaved.
We want to know was she fussy, did she throw a fit, did she listen well, etc. We're aware that she is often good and sweet, and that she can name lots of animals and often won't stop talking. Those are great things and we love hearing about them from other people.

But, mostly we want to hear about her actual attitudes and behavior to know what we can improve on. If you were to tell me that she was acting poorly or bit you three times these are things we need to work on at home.
In the same hand when she uses her manners and eats decently we want to praise her for being good.

As a leader in Family Life Ministries you can show love through giving parents these tiny details about their kids. They'll appreciate that you paid attention to their kids and care about their family.
If you notice that a kid was really interested in a story or paid attention well let them know. When their kid used their manners or helped a friend out. These are great things parents want to know.

Sometimes communicating bad behaviors can seem difficult depending on the situation and your relationship with the parent. I would advise to simply stick to the facts, don't let your emotions or opinions interfere. Their parenting style may be something completely different than your views on what may work for their kid.
Your role isn't to discipline a child, it's to connect with them and their parents.

The foundations built in this relationship will be truth, trust, and care. Your helping to show that this framework as a Christ follower is valuable in their lives.

We love each of you much and pray that your week goes well.